Our experienced behavior therapist has this to say: "When we are faced with a difficult task, we tend to think, "When I feel stronger and less afraid, I will do it." The truth is that only
by DOing the thing will we begin to feel stronger and less afraid. ACTing changes
us into the person we want to be, not "FEELing." You are scared. That is perfectly natural. All the reasons you should n o t leave are putting up imaginary barriers. That is natural. Brave people are people who do the thing they are s c a r e d to do. The idea terrifies them. The last thing they feel
is brave. They just jump. Do not let anything or anyone stop them! After they have done the brave act, they begin to feel they were brave. But in the middle of the act, their hearts were pounding and their
palms were sweating and they felt like they might die, they were so scared. Fear doesn't kill.
Doing nothing often puts people in far more danger. Get out a suitcase and start packing. If you pack one thing a day, you will be that much closer to your goal. If you are afraid you will get caught packing,
take a sack or a bag of some kind to a friend's house and sneak your clothes out of your place
in a pocketbook or a big casserole dish {no kidding} one at a time. Hide them in the car or
wherever. The point is to t a k e s t e p s. One at a time, then two, then three. . .soon you will be looking back saying, "Thank God I ignored my pounding heart and cold feet. I am F R E E."
Though the poem ended up sounding as if it is addressed to a woman, I wrote it with both sexes in mind. Men are abused, too! Percentage may not be as high -- hard to tell because of under-reporting -- but it happens a lot. As for child abuse, don't get me started!! Thank all creation for organizations such as Angels That Care and anti-domestic-violence fighters like my friend, ATC head Marcia Duning. Peace and Good Will, regardless of season. 'Pea ---- Marcia calls me Pod....cool, huh._____________________________________..
If you are in danger, please try to use a computer in which someone abusive does not have direct or indirect (hacking) access.
It may be safer to use a computer other than your own, such as at the public library, at a community technology center, a friend’s house or an Internet Cafe. You can contact www.ctcnet.org for a directory of technology centers near you.
If you think your activities are being monitored, then they probably are. Abusive people are controlling and often want to know your every move. They do not need to be a computer programmer or have special skills to monitor your computer activities – anyone can do it and there are many different ways.
Computers can provide a lot of information about you. For instance, sites you view on the Internet and the email's you send. It is not possible to delete or clear all computer “footprints” or history.
Don't tell me that you understand, don't tell me that you know
Don't tell me how I will survive, how I will surely grow.
Don't tell me this is just a test, that I am truly blessed,
That I am chosen for this task apart from all the rest.
Don't come at me with answers that can only come from me
Don't tell me how my grief will pass, that I will soon be free.
Don't stand in pious judgment of the bonds I must untie
Don't tell me how to suffer, don't tell me how to cry.
My life is filled with selfishness, my pain is all I see
But I need you and I need your love unconditionally.
Accept me in my ups and downs, I need someone to share
