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Walk away.

Let your heart pound.
Let your palms sweat
Let your blood roar.
Let chills and fever have their way.
Let panic shriek and sob,, then
sneak what you cannot live without
– babies, tees, diapers, bread, tampons --
for a time, then
call a shelter, call a friend,  then

Walk away.



Angels That Care 


Though the poem ended up sounding as if it is addressed to a woman, I wrote it with both sexes in mind. Men are abused, too! Percentage may not be as high -- hard to tell because of under-reporting -- but it happens a lot. As for child abuse, don't get me started!! Thank all creation for organizations such as Angels That Care and anti-domestic-violence fighters like my friend, ATC head Marcia Duning. Peace and Good Will, regardless of season. 'Pea ---- Marcia calls me Pod....cool, huh._____________________________________..
To 'Beats me What can I Do'
by Phyllis Jean Green
Thursday, December 22, 2005
http://www.angelsthatcare.org/BroketheCycle.html
Abuse a Fact,  Help Another  

Facts, facts, facts,  Charles Dicken's Micawber said,
repeat, said.  Facts about domestic abuse are easy
to find and hard to take.  Boil down to many,
many, many victims, and keep counting.  To too
little understanding and far too much fear. 
Bruised, pummeled, punched, kicked, dragged,
slapped, raped, and cursed by those who promised
to love and protect.  Again, repeat, again, repeat,
repeat again:  That, Micawber, is a fact.

A fact often ignored or misunderstood:  abuse
is not the victim's fault.  If you are a victim,
look in the mirror and repeat again, repeat again,
again repeat:  This is not my fault.  I am not .
the one who is threatening.  I am not the one
scarring.  I am not the one finding fault.
I am not the one pounding. I am not the one
in the wrong.  And I am not, repeat, not, alone..

Something like a quarter of female victims
of crime are the targets of criminals
that call themselves husbands, lovers,
fathers, friends, companions, partners.
Half or more have children under twelve.
These are facts.    And this:  Help IS
within reach.  Resources are just waiting
to be tapped.  If you can't get to a phone,
the Internet or a shelter, ask a friend
or neighbor, a minister, a cop – check
directories or have someone check
for you –  to help you and any children
involved.  More than you imagine
are,. or have been,  where you are --
or are now.    This is fact, too.
But the number one fact to remember
is that you have it in you to act
on your own.  Take back your life.
Love and respect who you are.
Climb around fear on your way out.
Hey, you're a class act.  's' a fact!


©)  Phyllis Jean Green
     for Angels That Care   

! ! ! Safety Warning ! ! !

If you are in danger, please try to use a computer in which someone abusive does not have direct or indirect (hacking) access.

It may be safer to use a computer other than your own, such as at the public library, at a community technology center, a friend’s house or an Internet Cafe.  You can contact www.ctcnet.org for a directory of technology centers near you.

If you think your activities are being monitored, then they probably are.  Abusive people are controlling and often want to know your every move.  They do not need to be a computer programmer or have special skills to monitor your computer activities – anyone can do it and there are many different ways.

Computers can provide a lot of information about you.  For instance, sites you view on the Internet and the email's you send.  It is not possible to delete or clear all computer “footprints” or history.



Don't tell me that you understand, don't tell me that you know
Don't tell me how I will survive, how I will surely grow.
Don't tell me this is just a test, that I am truly blessed,
That I am chosen for this task apart from all the rest.


Don't come at me with answers that can only come from me
Don't tell me how my grief will pass, that I will soon be free.
Don't stand in pious judgment of the bonds I must untie
Don't tell me how to suffer, don't tell me how to cry.


My life is filled with selfishness, my pain is all I see
But I need you and I need your love unconditionally.
Accept me in my ups and downs, I need someone to share
Just hold my hand and let me cry and say
"My friend............... I care."

Unknown


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The best way to protect yourself is to use a computer your abuser cannot access!

Access a computer at a friend’s house or at the library. Use any computer that your abuser cannot access.
  Warning
Vortex of a Battered Life
Child abuse leaves physical and emotional scars. bjd


It surfaces some 10, 20, even 30 years afterwards,

Coming back, swirling through the soul like

Beethoven's Moonlight Sonata,

rolling in like an insidious ocean-fog

at twilight.

Through unstable midnight-dreams,

it manifests during flashes of recollection,

spawned by a familiar sound,

a smell,

or the touch of a loved one.

Even bright, summery days haunts one's thoughts.

People, think her a little weird,

aloof, ya know, and uncaring like.

But she knows...

the conditioning of what not telling anyone brings.

Internal suffering that she holds close to her body,

draped around her like an over-sized paisley apron.

With strings attached, it beacons to her during those,

"when-I-beat-you-it's-for your-own-good" recalls.

Enuf!

Enuf!

Enuf!

Through God's divine mercy and grace,

birthing pains come.

She is relieved of  vortex-weights,

and begins taking baby steps,

walking freely,

escaping the complexities of a battered life...Oh!



Brenda Joy Dobson
Saturday, October 24, 2009